brave, bravery, leaders

If you want to be brave you’re going to have to let go of the idea that you’re fragile. That you need safety to perform, to act, to create. That you must first be treated with some particular form of special care before you can build or make something. You must first stop demanding or […]

Handle Your Elephants

This past month I’ve been working like mad to pull together reports and proposals for clients. I have a small team and we’re all buzzing. There’s building a business and then there’s doing the business. I love all of it. especially my purpose now – to support leaders in the arena – People hire me […]

Hospitality / Soulful Living

Today I’m thinking about all the investments I’ve made in other people. The events and parties and dinners and fundraising receptions I’ve hosted at my house at my expense.  And three years of Sunday@Six gatherings. One of the things I love about true hospitality and generosity is it delivers a kind of immediate satisfaction. There […]

Figure It Out Leadership

This morning talking with a woman who has spent her life (and most of her money) working to change the juvenile justice system – while also trying to wrest each individual child from its jaws when she could. I have this long list – so many of us spent decades on the long game and […]

Leadership Theory

Angela’s “Wastewater treatment plant” theory of leadership. You’re expected to take in all manner of dangerous crap, from every imaginable source, and turn it into pure drinkable water. You may be disrespected and abused but you can’t disrespect or abuse. You may be ignored but you don’t get to ignore. Your needs are a subject […]

Be Good for the World

I’m aggravating and I know it. My coaching/consulting style: Very annoying and loving big sister or older aunt that you know better than to call unless you really want to deal with the real. People pay me for this! My son says “nothing annoys you more, Mom, than undeveloped potential”. My brother Ted calls my […]

Leading in Disasters

For most of my life I took leadership for granted. I had no particular interest in “developing leadership”. I thought everyone was eager for the responsibility of leadership, driven by the demands of the mission and motivated to foster human development and eliminate unnecessary suffering. Fine. Mock me. You won’t be the first to think […]

Personal Responsibility

Today a powerful white man in Houston suggested to me that if Black people want to improve their circumstances it’s all about personal responsibility. And that race is an issue only because we keep bringing it up. Everything was fine and we were all getting along before some people made an issue of race. I was […]


Random thoughts on leadership: If you are a leader who needs *excellent* data to make a decision, you’re not a leader you’re a data follower. Nothing wrong with that – data is great – but know who you are. Data is like auditing. It already happened. It’s not a map of the future. Leaders use […]


This is a very useful rundown of what to expect re coronavirus. The more we listen to scientists the better off we will be. One thing I think about often is this: we live interdependently. Closely connected to everyone else in the world. We don’t want to believe that or deal with the implications of […]